Random queer musing, part 1
One of those “real” things that has been rattling along in my brain kind of goes along with the topic of femme invisibility. Not directly, of course, and, not being femme there’s not much for me to write on the topic, except for how I’ve tried to modify my own behaviors and assumptions as to not make any queer person feel less than 100% present in my community, regardless of their gender presentation. I do know that in the past partners have told me how much the love going out with me because they DO get read as queer just by showing affection to me (or vice versa) in public.
I’m glad that I can help facilitate that but I need to brutally honest here -I sometimes get that huge “butch shame” feeling because sometimes I feel like my visibility could be endangering my partner – and that fear, the feeling that by being who I am could actually hurt the one I love? Well – it isn’t a good feeling – and I was just curious to find out your thoughts, if you’ve ever felt similarly.